There was a time, before I got sober, that I went to a wedding and was filled with horror at the thought of all the people I knew together in the same room. Underlying fear: what if they talked about me!? What if they compared the me they thought they knew to the me someone else knew? An early teaching that an important sobriety mentor told me was this: having your insides match your outsides is going to be a natural outcome of sobriety. What does that even mean? Eventually,